Lots of people right now are looking for connections. We’ve been isolated and we’ve been missing others. But if you’re like me, just being with random people is not enough. I want to find my soul tribe.
What is a Soul Tribe?
People who value the things you value. People who have similar mindsets and ideals or beliefs. People, that when you’re around them, inspire, enlighten, and yes, bring you joy!
Most importantly, your soul tribe wants to see you grow to the highest version of yourself!
How do I find my Soul tribe?
To be honest, sometimes those folks are hard to find. And sometimes, just when you think you’ve found them, people like me come along to tell you, that’s not them!
It’s easy to find a group of people that will validate you and make you feel part of a group. They laugh with you, hang out, and let you complain. They’ll validate your anger or your betrayal or your feelings of being misunderstood. Why? Because it gives them an outlet for their own limiting beliefs. They can do the ‘I’m not being treated fairly’ chant with you, in perfect rhythm.
For many our first instinct in conflict, when we’re feeling chaos, is to find people who will validate our thoughts and feelings. Tell me I’m right. Vindicate me from any responsibility or accountability for what’s happening.
But your soul tribes are the dissenters. They’re the people who will stop and say, hey wait a minute….maybe you need to take another look at that?
They are the people that will call you on your shit – with love and compassion and a desire to see you grow. Those are your soul family; they are your tribe. It may not feel good at that moment, but it’s what’s best for you.
How Do I Recognize My Soul Tribe?
In a conflict recently, I found that my first instinct was to reach out to someone to validate my position — to tell me I was right (which in essence means the other person was wrong). I sought relief from this space of chaos that I was feeling.
I got the immediate relief I was seeking – absolutely you’re right. I can’t believe they treated you that way. You don’t deserve that.
At first it felt good – vindicated somehow. Until I sat with it. Wait a minute! I was still feeling bad. The situation was still not resolved.
I called another friend. Again, subconsciously I was looking for validation but instead I got, “Susan – this is the same conversation we’ve had before. Your pattern. When are you going to break the cycle?”
The reality flooded in. I knew that. Knew all of it. But in my desire to feel temporary relief from the pain of the situation, I ignored it. Pushed it down to some protective space inside to hide until another day.
She called me on my crap – with love and compassion — SOUL TRIBE!
Are They in my Soul Tribe – the checklist!
Here’s a quick and easy checklist for knowing someone is part of your tribe. You can recognize them because they will:
- Say what you need to hear, not what you want to hear
- Focus on present moment
- Be ok telling you no
- Come from a place of alignment and Truth
- Allow you to be your authentic self
- Help you feel balanced
Choose the people who will help you grow – that’s your tribe.
No matter where you are in this search right now, there’s always folks to help. As a spiritual coach and mentor, my job and passion are to help you grow into the highest version of you. Whether through individual spiritual coaching sessions or one of my Awakening Programs, if you’re ready to take the next step on your journey and just need a little support or guidance, I’m here to help!