Today, I was lucky enough to be able to spend the afternoon with a few friends I haven’t seen in months. We had lunch, we laughed, and we delivered messages from deceased loved ones to one another. (Thank you S.Y. for the messages from Gran Olney!). It was rejuvenating.
One of my dear friends has recently been through a lot – caring for an aging parent while coping with marital challenges and medical issues. Being the problem solver and go-getter that she is, she talked a lot about what she needed to do, how she needed to do it, and the stress of having to figure it all out on her own.
I could feel the chaos of her energy, her lack of groundedness. I looked at her for a few minutes, listening, feeling her inner turmoil and said,
“Breathe. You don’t have to do this on your own. Trust and Allow.”
Those of us in the spiritual community hear and maybe even say those words often. But what do they really mean?
To me, it’s synonymous with letting go – surrendering expectations and control. It’s a statement of faith and belief in a power greater than me –Universe, Source, God, the Divine; whatever resonates as True to you.
For my entire life I’ve been a planner, an organizer, a problem solver, just like my friend. My family teasingly called me “Sergeant Susie” growing up. They tell stories of a 5 year old me training stray dogs in our yard or barking orders at my big brother to brush his teeth before school.
I never really told them how much those stories and nickname bothered me. It served as evidence to me that no one actually understood me. The belief of being misunderstood created another feeling in me.
I was alone. The only one I could rely on was me.
This feeling persisted throughout my adulthood. All my life, I have painfully struggled through finding solutions, weighing pros and cons. Sometimes I spent hours, days, desperately trying to think my way through to the “right” decision – always by myself, which I know now was purely self-inflicted. The pressure I put on myself was unimaginable.
Enter this spiritual journey and my newfound knowledge that I am a creator and the Universe is my constant supporter! Ah! The relief and the power it brings!
We are not alone. We don’t have to be Sergeant Susie’s. We don’t have to think through problems, make lists, identify options, or consider the what-ifs and possibilities. It is not our job to focus our minds on HOW something will be accomplished.
We simply need to focus on how we want to feel with the outcome. Set intentions. Align ourselves with the emotion that intention brings. Feel the joy, the relief, the love, and solace that will come with the resolution. And then?
Simply, Trust the Universe and Allow Perfection to Flow.
And it will flow!
I wish I could say I never toss and turn at night working on the “perfect” solutions to life’s challenges. Sometimes, I’m still guilty.
But I catch myself now. With pure love and non-judgment, I call myself out for allowing my ego to creep in. I stop and remind myself – Turn everything over to Source. When I do– the results are amazing!
The solutions do not always come in the packages I thought they would, but they come nonetheless. They come with ease and grace. They come with little struggle and conflict. They come PERFECTLY and in Divine Timing.
My friend and mentor Sabrina Heartsong (visit Sabrina’s website and Facebook page), authored a document entitled The Purpose of Life that embodies this concept. With her permission, I’m sharing it with you. I believe it sums up this article perfectly.